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Make disappointment work for you
It took Anita Bunkley roughly five years to write Emily, The Yellow Rose, her first novel. But after pushing the manuscript to major publishing houses for an additional three years, she wasn't exactly swimming in prospects. Undeterred undeterred
Adjective
not put off or dissuaded
Adj. 1. undeterred - not deterred; "pursued his own path...undeterred by lack of popular appreciation and understanding"- Osbert Sitwell
undiscouraged , she shelled out $10,000 to self-publish the book, a black historical tale set during the Texas Revolution. "The process was slow, cumbersome and very expensive," says Bunkley, a former public school foreign language teacher. But her efforts paid off, and the book was released in 1989.
The following year, she approached the distributor for Houston area outlets of Waldenbooks, hoping to make Emily a presence in the store. "I was told it was company policy not to carry small-press books," says Bunkley. Nonetheless, she tried for months to get the store to reconsider. But the distributor was adamant. "I was disappointed and hurt, and determined to show them they were wrong for turning me away."
Despite her raging emotions, Bunkley decided to put her frustration to good use. "I encouraged all my friends to shop at Waldenbooks and inquire about my book." Nearly a year later, the store called. "The demand for Emily became so great, they all but rewrote their policy to get my novel on the shelves." Bunkley's book is now carried by Waldenbooks and other major chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Getting attention from mainstream outlets is relatively effortless ef·fort·less
adj.
Calling for, requiring, or showing little or no effort. See Synonyms at easy.
ef
fort·less·ly adv. now for Bunkley, who has written five additional novels since Emily. She has recently released her seventh and latest book, Steppin' Out With Attitude: Sister Sell Your Dream (Harper-Perrenial, $12.50), a motivational book about her life experiences.
"You can let adversity pull you down, or you can use it to spur you on to great accomplishment," says Barry Farber
* Think beyond the moment. "Getting upset won't get you anywhere," cautions Bunkley. Stay focused on your broader vision so you can remain free and open to spot any opportunities that may arise.
* Be prepared to switch gears. "You may try things that don't work out," but you can always regroup re·group
v. re·grouped, re·group·ing, re·groups
v.tr.
To arrange in a new grouping.
v.intr.
1. To come back together in a tactical formation, as after a dispersal in a retreat. and try different approaches, says Farber. If nothing else, you'll gain insights you'd never have gotten had you not tried.
* Learn your lesson. There's something to be gained from every experience--even negative ones. "Failure teaches us unparalleled lessons that give us a chance to reassess reassess
Verb
to reconsider the value or importance of
reassessment n
Verb 1. reassess - revise or renew one's assessment
reevaluate and reevaluate our lives," says Farber. Learning from your mistakes can be great building blocks to success.
RELATED ARTICLE: INNER STRENGTH
Held in high esteem Here's how to give your self-worth a boost
Never have anything good to say about yourself? Do you always tend to focus on your flaws and what you can't do? Then chances are your self-image is in need of some serious repair. Before you make a pilgrimage to the self-help section of your bookstore, master these self-esteem boosting tips:
* Seek out and cherish what makes you different. Maybe you have a quirky quirk
n.
1. A peculiarity of behavior; an idiosyncrasy: "Every man had his own quirks and twists" Harriet Beecher Stowe.
2. sense of humor Noun 1. sense of humor - the trait of appreciating (and being able to express) the humorous; "she didn't appreciate my humor"; "you can't survive in the army without a sense of humor"
sense of humour, humor, humour or a unique way of looking at things. Learn to love the attributes that make you stand out and embrace them as extensions of yourself.
* Learn to laugh--at yourself. No one's perfect--including you. So loosen up and give yourself permission to err. Finding humor in your shortcomings A shortcoming is a character flaw.
Shortcomings may also be:
* Reflect on past successes. Past accomplishments can well serve your sense of self-worth. Keep them in mind when you feel as if nothing ever goes your way.
It took Anita Bunkley roughly five years to write Emily, The Yellow Rose, her first novel. But after pushing the manuscript to major publishing houses for an additional three years, she wasn't exactly swimming in prospects. Undeterred undeterred
Adjective
not put off or dissuaded
Adj. 1. undeterred - not deterred; "pursued his own path...undeterred by lack of popular appreciation and understanding"- Osbert Sitwell
undiscouraged , she shelled out $10,000 to self-publish the book, a black historical tale set during the Texas Revolution. "The process was slow, cumbersome and very expensive," says Bunkley, a former public school foreign language teacher. But her efforts paid off, and the book was released in 1989.
The following year, she approached the distributor for Houston area outlets of Waldenbooks, hoping to make Emily a presence in the store. "I was told it was company policy not to carry small-press books," says Bunkley. Nonetheless, she tried for months to get the store to reconsider. But the distributor was adamant. "I was disappointed and hurt, and determined to show them they were wrong for turning me away."
Despite her raging emotions, Bunkley decided to put her frustration to good use. "I encouraged all my friends to shop at Waldenbooks and inquire about my book." Nearly a year later, the store called. "The demand for Emily became so great, they all but rewrote their policy to get my novel on the shelves." Bunkley's book is now carried by Waldenbooks and other major chains such as Barnes & Noble.
Getting attention from mainstream outlets is relatively effortless ef·fort·less
adj.
Calling for, requiring, or showing little or no effort. See Synonyms at easy.
ef
fort·less·ly adv. now for Bunkley, who has written five additional novels since Emily. She has recently released her seventh and latest book, Steppin' Out With Attitude: Sister Sell Your Dream (Harper-Perrenial, $12.50), a motivational book about her life experiences. "You can let adversity pull you down, or you can use it to spur you on to great accomplishment," says Barry Farber
- For the Friends character, see List of significant others of Friends.
* Think beyond the moment. "Getting upset won't get you anywhere," cautions Bunkley. Stay focused on your broader vision so you can remain free and open to spot any opportunities that may arise.
* Be prepared to switch gears. "You may try things that don't work out," but you can always regroup re·group
v. re·grouped, re·group·ing, re·groups
v.tr.
To arrange in a new grouping.
v.intr.
1. To come back together in a tactical formation, as after a dispersal in a retreat. and try different approaches, says Farber. If nothing else, you'll gain insights you'd never have gotten had you not tried.
* Learn your lesson. There's something to be gained from every experience--even negative ones. "Failure teaches us unparalleled lessons that give us a chance to reassess reassess
Verb
to reconsider the value or importance of
reassessment n
Verb 1. reassess - revise or renew one's assessment
reevaluate and reevaluate our lives," says Farber. Learning from your mistakes can be great building blocks to success.
RELATED ARTICLE: INNER STRENGTH
Held in high esteem Here's how to give your self-worth a boost
Never have anything good to say about yourself? Do you always tend to focus on your flaws and what you can't do? Then chances are your self-image is in need of some serious repair. Before you make a pilgrimage to the self-help section of your bookstore, master these self-esteem boosting tips:
* Seek out and cherish what makes you different. Maybe you have a quirky quirk
n.
1. A peculiarity of behavior; an idiosyncrasy: "Every man had his own quirks and twists" Harriet Beecher Stowe.
2. sense of humor Noun 1. sense of humor - the trait of appreciating (and being able to express) the humorous; "she didn't appreciate my humor"; "you can't survive in the army without a sense of humor"
sense of humour, humor, humour or a unique way of looking at things. Learn to love the attributes that make you stand out and embrace them as extensions of yourself.
* Learn to laugh--at yourself. No one's perfect--including you. So loosen up and give yourself permission to err. Finding humor in your shortcomings A shortcoming is a character flaw.
Shortcomings may also be:
- Shortcomings (SATC episode), an episode of the television series Sex and the City
* Reflect on past successes. Past accomplishments can well serve your sense of self-worth. Keep them in mind when you feel as if nothing ever goes your way.
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